Choices for Life

Below is an email from a Godly Woman member, after reading, please pray for their family and if you wish, leave an advise, prayer, a Bible verse or comment below to help this person. Thank you. 

Dear Godly Woman,

I have a Question? Please keep me as anonymous. I was raised in apostolic churches and know marriage is for life. I backslide and got divorced and now live with a guy and we have a 2 yr old. We recently both started going to church. What are everyone’s views? Can we get married or do we need to split? I know what I've been taught but someone has told me different than what I was taught. Can someone help me and give scripture to back up? I’m a bit confused now

Godly Woman Answers:

Dear Confused,

There are Four Biblical truths I would love to share with you and to others who might be going through the same situation as yours:

Truth #1 – About being raised as a Christian:

Almost all of us, who grew up to be Christians, are taught certain truth’s from the scripture that we must obey and to keep for life. One of these teachings is obeying the 10 Commandments; we all try our best and obey these commandments or, like some, take it lightly as they grow. But, did you know? this by itself, does not make you a true Christian? – Why? Because, “All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.” – Isaiah 64:6

So whatever good we do is filthy rags; this does not mean you must not do good, YOU MUST at any cost, it does not make us any better than the next person or get the highest reward from heaven, that’s not the goal here, You do good because you love God and out of love you help and do good to all mankind without partiality.

So what makes us worthy in the sight of God? – The precious blood of HIS only son, Jesus Christ. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” – John 3:16

Jesus is the One you need.  Him alone.  Not your works – “As it is written: “There is no one righteous, not even one; there is no one who understands; there is no one who seeks God. All have turned away;    they have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one.” – Romans 3:10-12 & (Isaiah 64:6).  Not your sincerity.  Not your goodness.  You have nothing to offer God except your sinfulness.  It is only by the love and grace of God found in Jesus and His sacrifice that you can be delivered from the righteous wrath of God upon all who have broken His law.  Jesus saves you from God’s wrath.

Jesus wants us to Love God and to Love our neighbors – Jesus answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with your entire mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” – Luke 27:10 – In the New testament, this verse is given to us in the form of a capsule for the 10 commandments, if we do these two things that Jesus requires – to Love God and to Love your neighbors – then everything else will fall into its place, once we obey this command, we will automatically obey the 10 commandments too, it follows’ up, the reason, once we love, like the way God loves, we will not be stealing, gossiping, hating, taking revenge, disrespecting, murdering, slandering, disobeying, coveting and all other sin’s. Once the true love of God resides in us the change will be immediate and effective. Others around us will start seeing this true Christ like change in us. That’s when we have truly become a born-again and accepting Christ and learning to love others like Jesus, without any hate or guilt. God is love and love conquerors every wicked ways. Remember - “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” – 1 John 4:8

Truth #2 – About Marriage & Divorce:

Marriage – "Marriage is a sacred covenant done between a man and a woman in the presence of God. It is designed for a companionship and
intimacy, BUT, most Importantly GOD designed Marriage to please HIM!" 

Here are 5 articles based on the subject marriage and I would love you to read and understand the depth of it. Here are the links to go - 

Marriage Duties of the Christian Husband and Wife --

10 Things To Avoid If You Do Not Want To Ruin Your Marriage --

5 Signs Your Marriage Has Healthy Submission

MARRIAGE The Beautiful Happily Ever After

Divorce – Divorce is not something God intended, but it happens, and is happening. I would love you to go through all these Bible verses below, reading this might hurt as the truth unravels (that is if you are victim of divorce) but remember God is not legalistic and due to our imperfections, God forgives and accepts us if we are truly having a heart that seeks God alone. So I want to address this subject based on Biblical verses alone:

Romans 7:2-3 -
For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband. So then if, while her husband is living, she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress, though she is joined to another man.

Malachi 2:14-15
"Yet you say, 'For what reason?' Because the LORD has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. "But not one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And what did that one do while he was seeking a godly offspring? Take heed then, to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth.

Ephesians 5:33
Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.

Matthew 19:6
"Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man separate."

Matthew 5:31-32
"And it was said, 'Whoever sends his wife away, let him give her a certificate of divorce'; but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the cause of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Mark 10:2-12
And some Pharisees came up to Him, testing Him, and began to question Him whether it was lawful for a man to divorce a wife. And He answered and said to them, "What did Moses command you?" And they said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away." But Jesus said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. "But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh; consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. "What therefore God has joined together let no man separate." And in the house the disciples began questioning Him about this again. And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery."

Luke 16:18
"Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and he who marries one who is divorced from a husband commits adultery.

1 Corinthians 7:10-15
But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not send his wife away. But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, let him not send her away. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, let her not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.

1 Corinthians 7:39
A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

Deuteronomy 24:1-4
"When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man's wife, and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God gives you as an inheritance.

Here are some articles based on Divorce –

Instead of Saying "I Love You", Show Love In Your Actions -

Dating, Marriage, Break-ups, Separations and God

Christians and Divorce - How Divorce Affects Teenagers

How to Know If You Have Met the Right Christian Person For Marriage?

Divorce is serious, but unfortunately now, is becoming accepted, even in Christian circles. I believe that it is time that we took a stand against such destruction upon the family. Every faithful friend and acquaintance should challenge and plead with those who are tempted by the evil one to leave their covenantal marriage and the precious children whom God has given them.

Covenant-breaking is a serious sin. We must repent and humble ourselves before our loving and merciful God. We must never forget that God’s loving forgiveness is entirely based on sincere repentance. If we will not repent, we will surely hasten the judgment of God.

Truth #3 – Fallen short of the glory of God?

“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” – Romans 3:23

There is this beautiful story that is in the Bible, where, Jesus forgiving this woman, a prostitute, a sinner, in John 8:1-11 and below is the story, please read – to see the beauty of compassion and love Jesus has for sinners like us.

“But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts; where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”  Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

 “No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”  (<----- that is a very important verse for everyone to understand and to learn from it. Ask God to help us lead a pure life, only God can help and guide us in this matter.)

This is the beauty of going back to Christ, asking his forgiveness, and living a sinless life; we can only do this by accepting Him as our Savior and obeying his commandments and by doing His will. God wants us to obey him, he will give grace to our circumstances if we truly repent and go back to him. Keep it a priority to pray, read and meditate on the word of God, take time to listen to what God wants to speak to you through his word, love Him and love one another. This will bring any cycle of bondage to nothingness, because Christ covers us with his blood and shields us if we are truly, faithfully and sincerely repentant and seeking His heart and plans for our lives. And that’s the end of that story – NO ONE in this world can break your covenant and your Relationship with Christ! Praise God!

Therefore, now is a good time to sit back and talk to God about all our sin’s sincerely, bringing everything to openness, at his feet, this will free us from every guilt, shame, bitterness, anger, revenge and hatred. Only the truth of God can set us free --- JESUS is the only Truth! – Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. – John 14:6

Truth #4 – Children are a heritage and a blessing:

“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.  Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.”  – Psalm 127: 3-5

It is best and healthy to raise a child in Biblical perspectives (do not allow them to adopt the worldly culture) -- “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:12

Let God in His mercy help us as parent's, as we seek Him to raise a family to honor Him. This will not only help us, but your children will be a blessing to everyone else around us too. 

Teach your Children to:
❤ Love God and people.
❤ Respect everyone alike.

Help your Children to learn:
❤ Bible verses.
❤ Songs related to Jesus.
❤ Give them opportunities to express their views and as you go correct them with patience, so they can understand and learn.

Enjoy and love your children as they grow, nurture them in every way, do not scream at them, talk calmly and help them understand things they do not understand or know. They just came into this world and it is the parent’s responsibility to guide and help them in the guidance of Christ. In the long run, this will make you the proud dad and mom of your children.

Last, but not least, Remember: 

God Is Bigger Than Our Circumstances and Jesus must be given First priority in every matter of life. J 

May You have a blessed life as God intendeds it to be.

Power Verses to help you:

I Peter 4:8

Keep your love for one another at full strength, because love covers a multitude of sins.

Proverbs 31:10-30

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.  Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.  She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.  She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.  She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.  She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.  She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.  She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.  In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.  She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.  When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.  She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.  Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.  She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.  She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.  She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.  She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.  Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:  "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all."  Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

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